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By what age should you know what you want to do with your life?

Hi guys & welcome back to Ask Nessa and today I am answering a question that has crossed many young adults minds especially ones that are going into college just as much as those graduating college. This question, however seems like it would have a loaded amount of answers, only has a simple one; you know when you know. In fact, you may even know once you have already started! My parents always told me that I was going to change my mind in college a lot and that’s okay because students often change their mind about what they want to pursue 2-4 times within their college education, in fact, I encourage you to try as many things as possible. Whether it be joining the military, going to business school, or taking on beauty school, this is your life so make it count. All great things aren’t “planned” out like a football play, when it happens it will happen but of course keep working as hard as you can even if you decide what you are doing isn’t for you. The world is full of opportunities and you should never sell yourself short, so in other words, what age should you know what you want to do with your life? Only you will know, but don’t stress over it. All successful people were clueless at one point.

 

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Can a man and a woman just be friends?

Hello my friends and welcome to Ask Nessa and today’s question of the day is one of my favorites! Can a man and a woman just be friends? Uh, yes! I’ll be completely honest, growing up I always thought that every boy I spoke to had to have had a crush on me but clearly that was not the case but this reality had not crossed my mind because to me, I was a catch. Throughout middle school there was the crazy stereotype that boys and girls could not be friends because girls had “cooties” which by the way, don’t exist, but the madness did not end there. Going into highschool I made the executive decision to make friends who were not just girls and it was very interesting seeing how others reacted to my new pool of male friends. I remember being really good friends with this one guy, we’ll call him C, and ever since we started being friends it was as if no matter where we were there were people shouting our names and singing the cute yet obnoxious song, “Nessa and C sitting in a tree”, blah blah blah blah shut up please. I guess it all comes down to maturity. Here I am now, senior in high school, and the majority of my friends are in fact boys! The mocking of girls and boys being friends has died down since freshmen year and I guess that means it all comes down to majority. When girls and boys are friends you will frequently get asked, “Are you guys dating?” and you would say no and not give a flying poop because it’s all about you. Not everything has to be romantic, but if your friendship does in fact turn into something more than you go girl! Or boy.

 

Kisses, Nessa.

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How do you know when to end a friendship?

Hi friends! It’s Ask Nessa and I have been getting a lot of questions about relationships and friendships and I felt as though this was something that a lot of people deal with and often go through it alone so don’t fear, Ask Nessa is here! How do you know when to end a friendship? That’s a good one. I have had so many friends over the years and some have come and go, simply because we’re growing up, going separate ways, and other times I actually have to end it myself. How? It wasn’t easy, that’s for sure. Ending friendships is one of the hardest things you’ll have to do in your life. Even more heart breaking than a relationship ending. However, your friends are the one who are there for you when a relationship does end, they watch movies with you, they buy you candy when you’re sad, laugh at stupid jokes, and go on breakfast dates. All those are good things until everything about that person that once made you happy suddenly makes you sad. Some friendships can go toxic, too much time together, too much time apart, and you need to realize when to end it. I’d say when I ended my friendship with my 7th grade best friend it was when I realized I deserved so much more out of someone who called a “best friend”.